Challenges…

As I sit here  – I am reminded of all the challenges that we face in life, love, work etc.

Personally – I have dealt with many challenges in my life – as I am sure you have in yours – but this post is not about me at all.

For the first time – in a very long time – I am actually at a loss for words – wait – not a loss – I am NEVER at a loss for words.

I do, however, find myself struggling with how to put what I wish to say into words.

It’s an odd feeling.

Life – it sometimes throws us a less than favourable situation.

We “zig” instead of  “zag”. Left turn instead of right turn. Go forward instead of backwards.

We all do it- as they say – life happens.

I have promised a very special and significant person in my life that I will not go into detail but needless to say a very special and significant person in their life has been thrown into a less than favourable situation.

A “zig” instead of a “zag” if you will.

Everyone handles these situations differently – would you agree?

When that less than favourable situation happens- much like grief -there are stages that one goes through. There is denial and anger. There is isolation, bargaining and depression and then there is acceptance.

But how does one move from one stage to the next?

Can one be pushed into and/or fast tracked through those stages by outside influences? Should one be? I don’t think so – and quite frankly don’t think it is fair to the person who is in that situation to be influenced.

The decision making process is quite personal. When and if it is a life changing situation it should not be made with outside influence.

Yes???/No???

I do apologise for being cryptic however – a promise is a promise.

Everyone has been subject to a less than favourable situation in their life – there is no denying that.

It is how we deal with it that tells the tale.

We can curl into a ball and rock back and forth and hope it goes away. We can be angry and bitter and blame everyone else. We can hide, we can run, we can wither.

BUT  and you can agree or disagree – we can also stand up and face that situation head on and not let it drag us down.

We can learn from it – we can teach others about it – and in some instances we can use it to our advantage.

Life is so full of challenges and how one deals with them is a true testimony to ones upbringing, outlook, and perseverance.

With love and understanding and patience – anyone can face those less than favourable situations that may roll their way.

These issues, these situations are a fact of life. We cannot get away from most of them and we cannot allow ourselves to shrink from them.

What we can do is educate ourselves on every aspect of the situation. We can stand tall and we can face it head on.

Most importantly – we can love and allow others to love us.We can allow ourselves to be weak at times and allow others to take care of us.

I am blessed to have a loving partner, children, family and good good friends around me to support me when I am in those less than favourable situations.

I’d like to think that this special individual realises that they too have a loving partner, family and good good friends to support them as well.

While at this particular point in time – it may seem bleak – know that it won’t always be.

Time – attitude – laughter and love will see them through this dark hour and the people who love them will continue to love them – laugh with them and support them.

“Healing is a matter of time, but it is sometimes also a matter of opportunity” – Hippocrates- wise words indeed.