It’s been ages – sorry – life and shit and stuff just gets in the way and the next thing you know BAM – it is the end of the summer and you question – what the hell have I done these past few months.
But realistically – while a blog is all about me – I’m having some questions that on some level I do hope this reaches some people who have or are in this same situation.
I’ll set this up.
While yes – I have bitched and complained about my Mother in Law – she really is a lovely person who really does just want the best for her son and it took me actual years to realize that but I’ll get to that momentarily.
My Mother in Law is sick – scrap that no – my Mother in Law has cancer and is dying.
There it is !!! It is out there and thankfully neither herself or my Hubs are on social media so this sort of allows me the cowards way of asking some questions to those who have gone thru this.
My parents- both gone and it was so quick that it spared me the quandry of WTF is happening – so I am in new territory.
Her days and dwindling – she is not in a hospice – quite the opposite- we just had dinner for her birthday today and tomorrow a nice brunch. The menus is epic BTW.
But it’s all so odd – how does one address the elephant in the room? – what do you say – what do you do? How do you act?
Like nothing is happening?
Hubs family is very closed about discussing feelings etc while my family – well we are loud and all up in each others business all the time that I am not quite sure how to conduct myself.
Am I being selfish in even asking this?
This all boils down to one thing – actually one person really.
Hubs- he ‘s an only child and while he says he is prepped I am not quite sure that the gravity of the situation has sunk in and I want to be that support for him.
We were going back and forth this week about this upcoming brunch (epic menu) and she said to me – that she was so happy that I would be here to take care of Hubs when she is gone.
I actually paused a moment because really that was the very first time in 20 years that I was acknowledged by her – or was is and I missed it? I graciously promised that I would always take care of him and we moved on from there.
Or is it me that I do not know how to deal with this?
I just don’t know BUT I would like anyone who has gone this to comment or message.
The best ways I can support Hubs thru this issue please.
Thank you!!!
I promise I won’t wait so long to post next time
XO
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